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3 Suggestions for a Surprise Lunch with your Spouse  By : Corrie Petersen When you’re a part during the day, finding time together can be difficult. One of the perfect solutions to this problem is to take your spouse a surprise lunch. This doesn’t have to be anything fancy because the surprise will mean the most. The Truth about The Law of Attraction  By : Chandra Alexander The law of attraction says that you will attract to you a match for your energy, or your vibration. If you are always thinking negative thoughts, your vibration will be negative and you will attract a match for that vibration. This is the same for positive thoughts. Being Real Means Believing in Your Own Goodness  By : Chandra Alexander We cannot be real unless we love ourselves, and we cannot love ourselves until we believe in our own purity of heart. This is not about something we do, but rather about something we are. It is unequivocal, our natural state of being-the opposite of sin, the same as light. When We Are Loved Unconditionally, We Get a Glimpse of the Inner Self  By : Chandra Alexander When children and pets love us openly and completely, we attribute this quality to their innocence, never realizing that this love is also our true nature, the nature we have long ago forgotten. This forgetting is not a flaw but an intricate part of the human experience, a chance for us to once again connect to what is real. Loving Your Self  By : Chandra Alexander We have all heard the saying, "Before you can love anyone else, you need to love yourself first". But what does "loving yourself first" really mean? How do you put into practice every day the art of loving yourself? What Loving Yourself Means  By : Chandra Alexander We've all heard the saying "You can't love anyone else until you love yourself". And although many of us believe this is true, few of us have any idea how to really do it. If you really want to know what loving yourself means and how to do it, read on. Good Marriage Communication Alone won't Save a Marriage  By : Paul Friedman Divorce mediation almost sounds good, like a smooth transition from being married, to a new life without the drama of marriage problems. It sounds like a very humane and civilized way for a couple to take the sophisticated, gentle approach towards creating devastation and a lifetime of pretending everything is fine. In reality, divorce mediation is nothing like what it sounds like. I know; I was a divorce mediator. Why Marriage Problems can Bring you to Divorce Mediation  By : Paul Friedman Divorce mediation almost sounds good, like a smooth transition from being married, to a new life without the drama of marriage problems. It sounds like a very humane and civilized way for a couple to take the sophisticated, gentle approach towards creating devastation and a lifetime of pretending everything is fine. In reality, divorce mediation is nothing like what it sounds like. I know; I was a divorce mediator. Why would you want to Save your Marriage just to have Endless Marriage Trouble?  By : Paul Friedman "We stay married just for the kids..." I can't tell you how many times I heard that from really good people; couples who were willing to endure almost anything for the sake of their children. If you are making a pact just to live together, why not come up with a pact that creates happiness? How to Stop Divorce of your Second Marriage  By : Paul Friedman It is not entirely your fault that your marriages have not worked. If someone were to tell you, "Oh, go ahead, you can fly it, you don't need any training, everybody flies 747's," you would be in a heap of trouble. Our culture neither supports marriage nor advocates any kind of realistic training for married couples. Five Ways to Resolve Marriage Issues without Marriage Counseling  By : Paul Friedman Marriage counseling is one of the most ridiculous industries in our country. Marriage issues cannot be solved through marriage counseling but they can be solved by married couples. Here are five simple ways to resolve marriage issues that you can start using right now. 10 Ways you can Save your Marriage and be a Happy Married Couple  By : Paul Friedman To have people say, "There goes a happy married couple," all you have to do is learn what marriage is all about and follow the rules of success. Stop Divorce by Discovering the True Causes of Divorce  By : Paul Friedman It is incorrect to believe that your marriage is over even after your spouse has filed for a divorce. Remember that the person you are married to was someone who chose you and who you chose to spend the rest of your life with. Seven Ways to Avoid Grounds for Divorce without Marital Therapy  By : Paul Friedman In this day and age the term "grounds for divorce" has become somewhat passe. In most states all you need to do to get a divorce is file as "irreconcilable differences." But most people who get a divorce only get one because they don't know what else to do. The resources that most people are exposed to for helping their troubled marriage are simply inadequate because marriage is not understood. Divorce Mediation can Help a Cheating Spouse  By : Paul Friedman Divorce mediation can be more than just helping people split property and create child-sharing programs. A good mediator will look beyond the current situation a couple is going through in order to help them see the possibility of remaining together. Dealing with your Spouse Affectionately can Save Your Marriage  By : Paul Friedman If you want to save your marriage, the question of how you are going to be dealing with your spouse is of paramount importance. There are different methods that have been tried and have proven to be failures time and again. Let's go over those failed methods which at first seem so tempting but prove to be disastrous. My Plan to Stop Divorce and End the Marriage Crisis in our Country  By : Paul Friedman Our country can literally stop divorce in its tracks if we eradicate the devilish notion that marriage problems are just a natural part of marriage. Why should Marital Problems Lead to Divorce Questions?  By : Paul Friedman There is a certain hopelessness that funnels people towards divorce rather than solutions for their marital problems. The fact of the matter is that traditional and widely accepted methods of dealing with marital problems obviously don't work (a 50 to 60% divorce rate for first-time marriages is pretty gruesome). Valentine's Day Blues from your Unhappy Marriage  By : Paul Friedman Isn't it amazing that most of us will never really use much math in our daily life yet they pump it into our heads as if our life depended on it? On the other hand we don't know didily about relationships, happy marriages, or the other gender, and they hand us a diploma at graduation as if we are now prepared for life; it's ridiculous! Marriage Counseling won't Create Intimacy in your Marriage  By : Paul Friedman The truth of the matter is that the field of psychology has almost no business getting involved in marital counseling. The proof of this statement is in the indisputable fact that marriage counselors suffer the same rate of divorce as everyone else; they obviously don't know more than anyone else about marriage. The Challenges of Interfaith Marriages  By : Paul Friedman Marriage is an invention of God's. Although God's laws are "defined" through religion His love is the universal component in all religions and the most important reality. While one religion may suggest the worship of God while on your knees and another religion has you standing up while you pray, both religions are praying to the same God. Marriage Counseling or Divorce Mediator  By : Paul Friedman In our society, in our time, the origins and correct uses of marriage are almost completely lost. The proof of my statement is in the divorce statistics and backed up by what everyone knows; happy marriages are extremely rare. My statement is also backed up by the fact that marriage counseling exists at all. Marriage Trouble, Relationship Problems and Faux Marriage Counseling  By : Paul Friedman If most people are getting marriage counseling when they are having troubles in their marriage or relationship why is there such a high rate of divorce? Are most people simply too stupid to be married? Is marriage meant to only be a place of suffering and endurance? Marriage Counseling and Marriage Problems  By : Paul Friedman Have you tried marriage counseling yet? If you haven't my advice to you is don't risk your marriage. Marriage problems are the food for marriage counseling but not the solution for your marital problems. Learn the Rules for a Happy Marriage  By : Paul Friedman If you think about it you might wonder why no attention is put on the subject matter of relationships and marriage in school. After all, not everyone needs algebra to get along in life but everyone needs to understand relationships in order to have a fulfilling marriage. Marriage Counseling can Hurt a Good Marriage  By : Paul Friedman Freudian-trained marriage counselors are trained to give therapy for various psychological ills. In a few cases the therapy they offer is useful. But marriages never need therapy; couples merely need information. Five Easy Tips For Finding Low Price Wedding Gowns  By : Darlyn Burkle The wedding dress is one of the most important parts of a wedding. The bride wants to look her very best and she wants to have the most beautiful dress there is. Wedding dresses can also be the most expensive part of the wedding, although it doesn't have to be that way at all. Save The Date Cards For Weddings: Announcing Your Marriage Plans  By : Darlyn Burkle If you need a simple cost-effective way to announce your wedding plans, then save the date cards is the way to go. Save the date cards are simple cards that give limited information. They are perfect for announcing your engagement and the date of your wedding. Romantic Honeymoon Ideas For Every Budget  By : Darlyn Burkle All newly weds look forward to their honeymoon vacations, but deciding where to go and what to do is not always easy. Here are several romantic honeymoon ideas for soon-to-be newlyweds. There is something for every budget. Ideas For Planning A Wedding On A Small Budget  By : Darlyn Burkle With the cost of living increasing each day, many smart brides-to-be are deciding on small weddings. If that sounds like you, then you are no doubt interested in ideas for small weddings. This article will get you started on the right track. Who Else Is Looking For A Wedding Planner Checklist?  By : Darlyn Burkle Planning a wedding is a wonderful time for a bride and groom. If you want a stress free, hassle-free wedding planning experience, then using a wedding planning checklist is a must. Find out why a wedding planning checklist is so important. Top Honeymoon Destinations: 7 Irresistable Options  By : Darlyn Burkle If you re busy planning your honeymoon, there are several top honeymoon destinations you should consider. Here is a list of 7 top honeymoon destinations. One of them may be just right for you! Centerpiece Ideas For A Wedding: 5 Homemade Options  By : Darlyn Burkle The centerpieces on the tables are the highlight of your reception and they do not have to cost a fortune. Budget conscious brides use homemade wedding centerpieces to save money while at the same time giving the reception tables a personal and unique touch. Take a look at these homemade wedding centerpiece ideas. Affordable Engagement Rings: Popping the Question on a Shoestring Budget  By : Darlyn Burkle Who ever heard of inexpensive engagement rings? You may think that all engagement rings are expensive, but it is possible to find some great bargains. It's true, diamonds are a girl's best friend and engagement rings are often one of the most expensive pieces of jewelry a woman will own, but you don't have to go bankrupt to buy an engagement ring for the woman of your dreams. Cheap Wedding Ideas: 3 Options For Budget Conscious Brides  By : Darlyn Burkle It's a fact that weddings can be very expensive. But the truth is that you can plan a wedding on a limited budget by using cheap wedding ideas. Here are a few cheap weddings ideas worth considering. Backyard Wedding Ideas - Elegant & Affordable Beginnings  By : Darlyn Burkle Are you considering a backyard wedding? You are in for a treat because backyard weddings are fun to plan. You can really be creative when planning your backyard wedding, but you need to be careful when you plan so that you don't run into problems. Marriage Counseling Won't Help your Sexless Marriage  By : Paul Friedman It is an interesting phenomenon that most of the complaints about sexless marriage come from women rather than men. It could be of course that when men get resistance to their desires for sex they either retire into a shell or look elsewhere. If you're looking for healthy intimacy in your marital relationship that includes sex I think I can be of service… When your Partner Lies  By : Paul Friedman A number of years ago some university did a study on how often people lie. Please forgive me for I only vaguely recall the details of the study but it was remarkable how the number of times a person who "never lies" actually does lie - at least five times a day. It made me stop and think about how often I lied in a day and what I could do about it. Marriage Counseling Won't Give you a Successful Marriage  By : Paul Friedman When I first set up my practice to help people learn how to turn their marriage around and create a happy relationship, I was astounded by the number of people who had already been to marriage counselors and had failed. I thought my own experiences with marriage counseling were an unfortunate coincidence; my wife and I never found success with marriage counselors… Marriage Counseling - One of the Greatest Causes of Divorce  By : Paul Friedman I know that it sounds crazy to list marriage counseling as a cause of divorce and even crazier to call it one of the greatest causes of divorce, but it's true… Clinical psychologists are not healers; they are essentially students who rarely have the same mental capability as doctors. To make matters worse, clinical psychologists pretend to be experts in relationships even though the vast majority of couples who go to marriage counseling end up divorced soon thereafter. Why Save your Marriage? - 4 Good Reasons  By : Paul Friedman When people reach the end of their emotional and psychological rope they invariably ask if their marriage is worth saving. Ironically, they already know intuitively they should save their marriage; they just don't know how. Save your Marriage - Save your Children  By : Paul Friedman We humans are pretty clever in our ignorance. When it comes to describing the results of divorce we have become masters of ignorance. Not only have we accepted divorce as normal but we have excused it completely and even come up with so-called benefits… Save your Marriage from Ghosts – 4 To Do's  By : Paul Friedman The ghosts I want to save you from are the formless phantoms that may be haunting your marriage. The formless entities that threaten your marriage are very real indeed. The most destructive phantom you can save your marriage from is Fear. Fear is the spirit of mistrust, doubt and uncertainty… Marriage Crisis  By : Paul Friedman The divorce rate in our society is so high that everyone gives up long before they should without fully considering what they could do to save their marriage. And it is completely understandable. Part of the crisis in our country is that when people are having difficulty with their marriage they look for marriage counseling… Stop Divorce  By : Paul Friedman It is my passion and my mission to stop divorce. It is destroying my country and eroding my family tree. It has undermined my community and impacted my children. It has defined the society within which I live in terms that are an embarrassment. I see people who give up on the spiritual values and moral standards that are foundational for a successful society. My friends and neighbors have learned to rationalize, as have I. Homemade Gift Ideas For a Boyfriend - 4 Fascinating Options  By : Darlyn Burkle What is a girl supposed to give her guy on a special occasion? Here's an idea. Rather than give the same "usual" things, why not do something different and unique? Here are four homemade gift ideas for your boyfriend. Saving a Marriage is Easier Without a Marriage Counselor  By : Paul Friedman Most people think saving a marriage is a pretty complex affair, but it isn't. Imagine if somebody gave you the keys to a car before you ever learned to drive. That's what it was like for you and most people when you got married. People just expect you to know what to do. Relationship Counseling Usually Won't Work - 5 Tips  By : Paul Friedman We live in a very difficult world. We are surrounded by criticism and nonsupport and so we are always on the defensive. It seems most of the time we are faced with challenges; prosperity and happiness do not come naturally to most people, they have to be fought for. 3 Reasons to Avoid Marriage Counseling  By : Paul Friedman People are starting to become more aware of the pitfalls and dangers of marriage counseling. I personally cannot think of a more misleading group of so-called professionals…There are some very good reasons to avoid marriage counselors. Maintaining Healthy Relationships - 3 Ways  By : Paul Friedman Most people, not only you, are insecure about their relationships. It's not just marital or significant other relationships that can be difficult. Maintaining healthy relationships is universally a problematic experience. Relationship Rescue  By : Paul Friedman It is easy for most people to understand why they need training in order to be safe. I hope you see where I'm going with this. Infidelity Warning Signs and 4 Solutions  By : Paul Friedman I think you'll find my approach to infidelity warning signs a bit different then what you have heard from top psychologists. My approach is not for you to spy on your spouse, but rather take a look at your own behavior. Causes of Divorce  By : Paul Friedman When I began my research into what I needed to know in order to help people have a happy marriage one of the first things I looked for were the actions that lead to unhappiness. Still my simple idea was, and still remains, if you are doing everything right the wrong things don't have time to slip in. Understanding Women in Relationships - 5 Tips  By : Paul Friedman I know you girls will be reading this even though this is directed towards the guys in your life; it's okay... It really isn't that hard to understand women in relationships if you understand the biology and psycho-physiological drives that create the desires and needs within her. Marriage Is For a Lifetime  By : Paul Friedman As far as I know nobody has asked to change the vows one makes at the altar to something other than "until death do you part" The idea of marriage being a permanent relationship that lasts a lifetime is tremendously important…. Marriage Counseling Won't Work - If You Never See Him or Her Anymore  By : Paul Friedman Where do you live? Do you live in a city, an apartment, a house or the country? Or do you live in a family? Or maybe where you really live is within yourself. Think about it. You are constantly surrounded, physically by your physical environment. Marriage Counseling Won't Work - If Your Family Told You They Didn't Like Your Spouse  By : Paul Friedman I have no idea how many age old dilemmas exist, but I'm sure there's a mountain of them. One of those ugly dilemmas is when you are married to someone your family says they don't like. Honestly, my heart goes out to you… Marriage Counseling Won't Help If You Try To Change Your Spouse  By : Paul Friedman Here is a letter I received from someone who read one of my blogs: Dear Paul, It is true that one ought not to adopt the role of a teacher...that would not be appropriate in a relationship...one wants to love and be loved… Marriage Counseling Will Be a Waste of Your Time If He Is Cheating With Your Best Friend!  By : Paul Friedman …Most men are not natural Casanovas. Introducing themselves to a woman is very painful and scary for most men. So when they have close relationships with other attractive women who are either single or married, the temptation to venture is tremendous… Marriage Counseling Doesn't Work - You Aren't Crazy or a Loser  By : Paul Friedman Anyone can tell you with great authority a marriage is not a washing machine. It does not take a genius to make such an obvious statement. But understanding marriage is not like trying to find the keys to universal questions either. With what we already know about cause and effect in human interaction, the so-called problems found in marriage should be easily identifiable. Marriage Counseling Doesn't Work - I Don't Trust Him or Her and 2 Simple Answers  By : Paul Friedman Have you ever lied? Have you ever stretched the truth? Have you ever exaggerated a story? Have you ever said something that wasn't exactly accurate but was kind of close to accurate? Do you know anyone who is 100% pure? I don't. Marriage Counseling; Does It work? - 5 Questions You Should Ask  By : Paul Friedman If you talk to any couple who has been married over 20 years and gets along, the chances are they never went to see a marriage counselor. On the other hand if you talk to a couple that had just gotten a divorce chances are very good they had tried marriage counseling… Intimate Questions to Ask Your Lover - For Women  By : Paul Friedman A quick review of divorce statistics screams at us. We are doing something wrong as a society in terms of teaching ourselves how we choose our partners. The criteria we use for getting married does not work. Intimate Questions to Ask… Your Husband  By : Paul Friedman By the time most people have been married a few years they have allowed the spark of intimate passion to recede almost to the point of nonexistence. Is that what you signed up for? 5 Intimate Questions To Ask In Your Marriage - For Women  By : Paul Friedman We don't ask enough questions of ourselves. Although it is true ladies like to 'challenge' themselves, which is different than asking questions, it doesn't help to change behavior. How to End a Relationship and 6 To Do's To Attract The Person You Want in Your Next Relationship  By : Paul Friedman Ending a relationship can be a traumatic experience even when both parties know it's time. Merely tell the person you didn't take the time to identify what was important to you, that you were attracted to them and in some ways still are, but want a serious relationship with a person who doesn't have to change in order to meet your own needs. Divorce Questions You Should Be Asking  By : Paul Friedman When people are having difficulties with their marriage the first thing they want to do is find out about a divorce. They want to know what to expect in terms of costs, how long it takes, and what the laws are that govern a divorce. 6 Divorce Questions  By : Paul Friedman Questions about divorce usually begin with people asking their friends who have already gone through the divorce process. They are generally subtle so the person being asked doesn't really know that the one asking is contemplating a divorce. Divorce and Adultery - 3 Solutions  By : Paul Friedman Very few people actually get a divorce because of adultery. Of course it's difficult to track the statistics since the advent of uncontested divorce. Anyone involved in the divorce system will tell you that adultery is something most people get beyond. I need to clarify something. Relationship Counseling - 6 Questions to Ask  By : Paul Friedman From my point of view it is rather unfortunate that psychologists are viewed by most people as being at the same educational and intelligence level as a doctor of medicine. 4 Steps For a Good Relationship  By : Paul Friedman By following the four steps outlined above you almost certainly have a fulfilling and loving relationship - it almost can't be helped. Love Over Trust in Relationships  By : Paul Friedman When we enter into a marriage it isn't our job to criticize our partner for their weaknesses. It is our job to support them through their difficult times. Love Advice for Your Relationship  By : Paul Friedman When we have established the relationship of a marriage or our intention to be married we agree to open our hearts so love can flow through without restrictions. Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships  By : Paul Friedman Never think of jealousy as part of yourself or anyone else. Jealousy, like other unwelcome intruders, can be pushed out by the owner of the mind. How to Save a Marriage  By : Paul Friedman …it is normal to have a happy marriage as long as you're following what I would call the physics of marriage. There are natural laws for everything. Family Counseling - Is it Necessary?  By : Paul Friedman A lot of time and money could be saved, and emotional pain and suffering would end if people understood one another and realized that the family is meant to be the safest refuge in the world. Dream Marriage - A How To  By : Paul Friedman Our environment prods us towards happiness, sadness, boredom or excitement, but it is not outer conditions alone that are responsible for our feelings. Divorce Advice for Women  By : Paul Friedman My belief is divorce has become acceptable because mainstream therapists simply don't know how to help a married couple remain together Marriage Counselor Las Vegas NV  By : Paul Friedman The cause of marriage failure lies in not understanding what a marriage is. How the Auto Industry Bailout Affects Marriages  By : Paul Friedman But instead of getting right to the heart of the problem the government is dealing with a result of the problem, an ailing industry... Like an ailing marriage. Beautiful Sexual Intimacy in Marriage  By : Paul Friedman For the most part men are clumsy and women are inarticulate when it comes to intimacy. In fact it is difficult to call the sexual interaction between most couples intimacy, at all. Premarital Counseling - 5 Tips  By : Paul Friedman The above five tips are just the tip of the iceberg. A truly happy marriage comes from unselfish and mature behavior. Relationship Information Online and Its Value  By : Paul Friedman It's up to us to compare notes, try new things and see what works for us; and then share what we know with others. How to Make a Relationship Last Forever  By : Paul Friedman To make a relationship last, infuse love with as many thoughts as you can for your spouse every moment. How Does Divorce Affect the Family - Insight  By : Paul Friedman The effort required to learn how to be happily married is microscopic compared to the suffering that comes from getting a divorce. Divorce Advice from Paul  By : Paul Friedman By the time people have fumbled around in a marital relationship and are looking for divorce advice they are discouraged and confused. But the most simple advice for those who have children is don't do it, if there is any way at all to avoid it. 2 Ways to Improve a Relationship  By : Paul Friedman The physics of building a passive solar home were known. I just used the rules in ways that had not yet been done before. Similarly, I know the "physics" of relationships also work regardless of a particular set of circumstances. 5 Signs of a Healthy Relationship  By : Paul Friedman Please don't imagine that perfect is not possible; it is. Some of the attributes you might come up with may be slightly different from what others come up with, but there will be definite similarities. The Effects of Divorce on Children Part 2  By : Paul Friedman The children do know what is going on. They know their lives are falling apart. They know life will never be the same. They know, even if their parents don't. The Effects of Divorce on Children Part 1  By : Paul Friedman To understand the effects of divorce on children, we will first look at the divorce process, core problems in the system, then how this affects children. Marriage Help for Men  By : Paul Friedman Men who think we can understand the mind of a woman are deluding themselves. I am not trying to be funny, just a practical. But men, you don't need to understa